I had a client once who told me she had made a list of qualities she wanted in a future husband, but no one seemed to ever match the list. You know -- like kind, considerate, someone who treated her like a queen -- things like that. Sounds like a Lifetime movie, right? Well, this was a real-life movie and it wasn’t working for her!
We took it a step further and, in her words, “It changed my life.”
I asked her to do two things:
1) First was to answer this question, “If you were the ‘ideal you’, how would you treat your future husband?” A lot of the characteristics were the same, but there were a few additions and a few she took off the original list.
2) Second, I asked her to start treating everyone in her life according to these characteristics, including that obnoxious co-worker that frustrated her.
When she started treating everyone as her ideal self, she started seeing changes in how others treated her. But there’s more. Why is treating someone as your “ideal self” important?
The answer is simple.
Values.
When you ask yourself, “how would I treat someone if I were the “ideal me”, you are revealing your values. Living by your values is significant in all areas of your life because your values are the compass that guides everything you do. They give your life direction and meaning. They define who you are and what you stand for.
If, for example, you value being kind, but gossip about your co-worker behind their back, you are not living according to your values. And when you don’t live according to your values, you create conflict within your body, mind, and spirit.
On the other hand, when you do live according to your values, you create harmony, which is important in maintaining a healthy body, mind, and spirit.
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Here’s to living a value-filled life.
